We create Destiny ourselves, with our perceptions.

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For me, it is very difficult to answer this question objectively because throughout my life I have believed in both fate and destiny. Since childhood, I instinctively followed a somewhat stoic line of thought, where I endured everything that happened to me, sometimes with nonchalance and at times with indifference.

From birth, I have always felt somewhat victimized by circumstances that were beyond my control: abandonment, the death of my loved ones, the lack of connection with people close to me, and above all, I grew up in a very poor environment where thrift was everything.

So, I explained it to myself in this way: it is fate that has decided this. It is fate that has decided to make me poor and to make me feel lonely.

Only in recent years have things changed radically, and as a result, everything around me has changed.

It was a difficult journey, full of uncertainties, but now I can truly say that NO, fate or destiny do not exist because the same event, if it happens to different people, has different perceptions, and everything is based on perception.

About 15 years ago, I discovered the law of attraction, taught particularly by Esther Hicks according to the “method” of Abraham. Esther is a controversial figure for many, but the message she conveys is what truly matters to me. I don’t exactly remember the day I approached the law of attraction, but I remember the journey taken as if it were yesterday, how it started, why it started, and where.

It all practically began with a phrase: “Miss Adore (yes, that wasn’t the name used), you’re too negative!”.

A phrase like that would have made anyone shudder. If I had been anyone else, maybe I would have just gotten angry and probably would have continued to be because it is fate that made me this way, or destiny.

But there was something in that phrase that instead gave me a shock. Hearing it, I was taken aback.

The words came from my new yoga teacher, in a small studio in Rome, where this teacher, extremely skilled and competent not only in yoga disciplines but also in Chinese medicine, was trying to encourage me to let go more and not just see adversities.

Indeed, during that time, everything was extremely confusing for me. I came from years of competitive water polo, master swimming, and I had knees ruined by wrong training. I had heard several doctors encouraging me to undergo surgical operations to solve the problem, but I was scared because these operations could have caused arthritis after just 10 years. Moreover, I didn’t want to undergo the long convalescence period, so I started looking for someone, or anything that could help me not feel pain, without undergoing surgery.

This led me to start practicing yoga with this teacher, and when I explained all the problems I had, she told me that actually what I had to do was very simple, I just had to stretch the Achilles tendon and calves, and work on strength.

At that point, I was angry, as if by saying this, she meant to say that I didn’t really have any problems. And I had to have them! I had to have them because the doctors had confirmed it.

Moreover, hearing “you’re negative!” left me speechless, no one had ever told me that. Around me, everyone, absolutely everyone, spoke like me. Everyone around me complained about physical problems, pains, life challenges. It was a topic of conversation. In the environment where I lived, it was a perfectly legitimate way to converse, almost the only way to converse. As if talking about our problems was a moment of sharing and connection with others.

Instead, it was just a reflection of what I had inside, and that phrase, about me, knocked down a wall.

I continued with yoga lessons for a while with that teacher, (and yes, to relieve the pain, stretching the Achilles tendon and the gastrocnemius was enough), but I confess that I continued to be somewhat upset by that phrase. I was angry because after that phrase she didn’t say anything else, she didn’t tell me how to be more positive, she didn’t tell me anything that didn’t concern yoga lessons, which I must admit were always beautiful.

So, I started my search. I started searching like a desperate person on Google what it meant to be negative. I stumbled upon dreadful sites where they told me I had bad karma, then on psychology sites where they always spoke in general terms, and there wasn’t even a method to solve the issue. I saw my negativity as a disease, as something to be eradicated, until I found myself on a site, a blog precisely, where the things they told me sounded different.

I downloaded an ebook from that blog, which still exists, and I read it all in one breath. The things I read there were somewhat bizarre, they talked about negativity, about how the thoughts we have in our heads are not always ours, but often we think with other people’s ideas, as if we were constantly brainwashed that prevents us from focusing on ourselves. I still consider this partly true, although in this ebook, I also found things that now sound absurd to me. Many conspiracy theories, they talked about the Rothschilds, the reptilians, and so on. But for the first time, I also heard about the law of attraction.

I was young and at the time, there wasn’t much information about it. It was a time when conspiracy theories were commonplace, at times, I was even haunted by them, but it made me feel powerless. I tried to control my thoughts and force myself to be more positive, but it seemed like a struggle with forces greater than me, and often I suffered spectacular “falls.”

I was in a full depressive phase, but I tried to enrich myself with positivity, I was strict about the people I hung out with, I stayed away from all those who tried to scare me about the future, the present, but not in a healthy way, rather in an extreme way.

Looking back, would I have behaved differently? I don’t know, even though for me, it was a necessary process at that time.

However, at that time, there was much less information about the law of attraction than there is now. I read “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne, I read the books of William Walker Atkinson (Yogi Ramacharaka) and Napoleon Hill.

I researched New Thought movements, I followed Madame Blavatsky and studies on Theosophy. I really remember spending 2 years of continuous research while continuing my university studies, but I continued to have crazy ups and downs in vibration. I managed to manifest many things, only when they were not fundamental for me, but the things I cared about the most struggled to arrive, and my original problems occasionally resurfaced like mushrooms after the rain.

Or at least, that’s how I saw it.

Then something happened. I stumbled upon some videos of Abraham in English, and what he said sounded somehow different.

Obviously, for those who know Abraham’s story, they know how everything is far-fetched, how everything is surreal when he talks about channeling, thought blocks, vibrations, and Higher Selves. I myself was hesitant about what I felt, it was all different. But everything sounded true, not in my head, but in my heart.

Even things I didn’t understand, about why tragedies happened. Unlike many others who said to control the thought, they encouraged to control the emotions, the vibrations, and the best way

to do it was to let them go, to let the universe solve things, and to have faith. Faith not in a god, in a religion, not even in them, but faith in the course of events, and above all in the importance of enjoying the journey.

I continued to follow Abraham from that moment on, I set aside conspiracy theories, and I tried to understand as much as possible with my mind and my heart.

And it changed my life, it changed everything.

Now I no longer see objectives as destinations to reach, but as excuses to undertake the journey, and this has led me to have many experiences, to meet wonderful people, to feel radiant.

I traveled to various continents, I did beautiful jobs, I found my stability, and the journey continues with joy and impatience for the wonderful things that will manifest.

I also faced adversities, some quite tragic, but despite the ups and downs continuing, I know that I am able to feel good anyway and it only takes learning to let go.

So, destiny, if it exists, I create it with my emotions, it doesn’t rain down from the sky randomly or to put me in difficulty.

Miss Adore